Parish of Leatherhead - Jack Stuttard 1916-2005 & Eleanor Stuttard 1931-2025

In Loving Memory of

ELEANOR STUTTARD

24th July 1931 - 8th February 2025

Friday 21st March at 11.00am, Leatherhead Parish Church

Bells will ring before the service, ending with tolling 93 times to reflect each year of Eleanor's life

"When angels visit us, we do not hear the rustle of wings, nor feel the feathery touch of the breast of a dove; but we know their presence by the love they create in our hearts"
- Mary Baker Eddy

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   Order of Service


ENTRY MUSIC
Postlude on the tune St Clement - Peter Young

WELCOME AND OPENING PRAYER
Reverend David Ireland

We are here to pay tribute to a truly remarkable lady who gave so much to others in her long and extraordinarily fulfilling life.
 
Eleanor was one of those inspirational people who had a God given ability to respond to the needs of others whatever their age or indeed their ability. I knew her when I worked for many years for the Royal School for the Blind (or SeeAbility as it is now known), where she showed extraordinary patience and kindness in the writing of letters for our residents. They loved her visits as much for her company as her letter writing.

Similarly she worked as a Home help/Carer, as a volunteer at the Leatherhead Day Centre and even found time to sell charity Christmas cards in the church hall opposite and assist in church cleaning and as a member of the Church Watch here at Saint Mary & Saint Nicholas.

Eleanor will always be remembered above all else as a devoted wife,mother, aunt grandmother and more recently great grandmother whose gentleness, kindness, and sense of humour shone through all her relationships as did her strong Christian faith and the strength she drew from Christian Science. So there is a great deal to give thanks for as we pause for a moment before hearing the reassuring words of our opening prayer.

HYMN
The Lord's My Shepherd

READINGS
Isaiah 13-16

Read by Karen Stuttard, daughter-in-law of Eleanor

Shout for joy, you heavens; rejoice you earth;
burst into song, you mountains!
For the Lord comforts his people
and wil have compassion on his afflicted ones.

EULOGY
Michael Stuttard and Andy Stuttard

Michael - Mum was born at Meshed in Persia at a time when Iran came under British political influence – her parents, Douglas and Evelyn, had been in the country for several years, with mum’s father the manager of the Midland bank. So in 1931 Mum joined her older sister, Iris.

The tragic death of their mother from malaria just a week after her birth made the bond between the two girls really strong. Growing up, the girls enjoyed an idyllic colonial lifestyle, playing in the snow in winter, and brown as berries during the hot Middle East summers. With the help of devoted nannies and tutors they thrived and, by the age of 5, Mum’s Farsi, she later recalled, was as good as her English!

This bucolic upbringing came to an abrupt end, however; with war looming, the two girls travelled back to England while they still could, leaving their father and step-mother behind for the duration of the war.

Boarding school in Eastbourne presented many challenges, not least the strict regime imposed by the nuns in charge. Luckily for Mum her stay there was short-lived as the German threat of invasion meant a move from the south coast to a school in Betws-y-coed, North Wales, where Mum remained until war's end.

Although cut off from their father, Eleanor and Iris saw much of their maternal grandmother and other relatives during the holidays, being especially close with her cousin, Micky Sandes in Bedford.

By 1946 and the war over, Mum’s father was finally able to return home, but sadly was suffering from tuberculosis, from which he was soon to die.Life has to go on, and Mum settled and continued to study in London and subsequently worked at the advertising giant, J Walter Thompson. Sharing a flat in Pimlico with June-Mary, who became a life-long friend, Mum led an active social life. Soon Mum met Dad, at the English-Speaking Union event, the Saturday Night Hop in Berkeley Square.Marriage soon followed in 1957, Mum given away by friend and work colleague Lord Tennyson.

Mum and Dad settled down in a large apartment in Bryanston Square, near Baker Street in central London, a perfect home as Juliette, Elizabeth and Celia were born in quick succession from 1958 to 1962. The private square garden proved a perfect playground for the growing family. To Mum’s and Dad’s amusement, they discovered that Christine Keeler was their neighbour, and this was right at the height of the Profumo Affair – perhaps the ‘60s paparazzi were kinder in those days!

A move to the countryside here in Leatherhead, though, became essential when I was born. Andrew then followed a few years later, to complete the family.By the late ‘60s, with 5 children in 10 years, Mum had her hands full but was thriving as a mother, leaving us with so many happy and fond childhood memories. Always fairy cakes in the tin, and a Victoria sponge on display, tempting us as we returned from school. Such a busy and welcoming house to friends and neighbours alike! She is remembered by everyone for being such a kind and gentle person.

There were regular trips out on the weekends to Ranmore, Headley Heath or Box Hill, and in the holidays day trips to the seaside at Littlehampton or Worthing, and week-long summer holidays to the Lake District, Bognor Regis and North Wales - and of course all these trips and outings accompanied by the legendary picnic hamper, with a large thermos of tea and homemade sweet and savoury delights.

Andrew continues:
Mum encouraged us to pursue our hobbies, and was always there to support us at school sporting events, ballet shows, gymnastics competitions, swimming galas, and tennis, rugby and football matches. Even as Mike and I continued our rugby in our 20s and 30s Mum would still find time to be there on the touchline. She even got on the back of my motor bike for a spin up the Mickleham Bends, but she kept leaning the wrong way going round corners which made it interesting but she was always game for a laugh.

Being the youngest child I was really spoilt by my sisters and especially my lovely Mum. She worked at my first school, Ryebrook, helping with the cooking and the Art classes which were famously chaotic but fun. If I was ill she would always get me a toy soldier from Taylors in Leatherhead and a bottle of Lucozade. Every day I returned from school I would sit in front of the TV and within a minute mum would bring me a KitKat and an orange squash. I used to get homesick at sleepovers as I wanted my Mum. Her cooking was fantastic and Karen still gets bored with my regaling my Mum's dishes and the vegetables she reeled out every meal. Even when I was away at University, every term without fail she would make a gingerbread cake for me which my friends used to chuckle at, but was delicious.

As we all became more independent, Mum started on a pathway of care and helping others in society. Working as a home-help/carer for Surrey County Council, she visited many elderly people assisting them in their homes with dignity and love, arriving on her bicycle or in her little blue mini called Alice! Mum and Alice the Mini were a real team but unfortunately Alice developed a car horn problem and every time she went into Leatherhead and went round a corner the horn would go off for about 10 seconds which was extremely embarrassing for such a self-effacing person. I remember squirming in the passenger seat as the horn went off going past a group of people all of whom stared in amazement.

Home helping became her new life work, continuing to help others when needed, whether it was at the local blind school writing letters for the residents, or just helping the elderly with shopping in the local community.

She also did a Jury service stint and most nights she came home and said that “the defendants had such lovely and innocent faces that I just couldn’t convict them.” She always saw the good side in every one! This selfless trait continued throughout her life, even quite recently volunteering at our local day centre, offering care and support to older residents, many just a few years her senior.

Mum received a Civil award with her friend Betty Borgust from the local council for the help and care they gave to the elderly at the Leatherhead Day Centre. They used to bathe the elderly people who couldn’t manage to have a bath at home. Betty and Mum also used to sell Charity Christmas Cards every year in the Parish Church Hall, and one year they were involved in a heist when two undesirables walked in wielding toy pistols and ordered them to hand over the takings which they clearly did. The police were called and both ladies had a nice cup of tea to settle them down. Mum laughed about it later in her cheeky and funny way as it was a such a great story.

Throughout her life Mum kept a strong Christian faith, worshipping for decades here in Leatherhead, and also embracing the strong belief in the healing power of God, channelled through the teachings of Christian Science. This steadfast faith was dreadfully challenged when our beautiful sister, Elizabeth, was suddenly taken from us now over 40 years ago. She is buried in this graveyard, alongside Dad.

After the death of Elizabeth, Mum and Dad set up a charity in her memory. Elizabeth used to help disabled young people to swim at the Leisure Centre and this charity was to pay for some of these disabled people to have a holiday. This sense of giving back to others was a major theme of Mum’s life.

Happier times helped the grieving process, however, as Juliette married John later that year.

Michael again:

As all Mum’s children reached adulthood and settled down, there followed 10 grandchildren, and of course Mum was more than willing to help out with babysitting, sleepovers, school plays, sports days etc; this was her new life as a grandmother. And when our Dad died 20 years ago, Mum was able to focus on her growing grandchildren as a source of joy which helped the shock of bereavement.

Mum’s sense of family also extended towards our cousins – from Dad’s side of the family, Jane, Chris, David and Matthew, and Iris’s side, Jennifer and Robert for whom, after Iris’s tragically early death, she became a guiding and loving presence.

Poor health and the beginnings of dementia came just at the time when our eldest sister, Juliette, was taken from us nearly 6 years ago. When Mum was in her 80s, she continued to live at home with the help of her family, and assisted by live-in carers Tiago from Brazil and Lizbet from Hungary, both of whom loved her kindness and sense of humour. And even at this time, when memory was failing as well as physical issues increasing, you would find Mum engrossed in watching a rugby match or Wimbledon on TV!

As even semi-independent living became difficult, Mum spent her last few years under the wonderful support offered at Priors Mead care home in Reigate, where the kind and caring staff provided love and sympathy and just a fun place to be, where Mum would just suddenly sing songs from her nursery days, and always managed to stand with her frame as the national anthem played on Remembrance Sunday at the Cenotaph on TV.

Mum got to meet her first great-grandchild, Sebastian, last year, which was of course thrilling for her, and she even managed to sing him one of her nursery rhymes ‘Wind the Bobbin Up,’ whilst holding him in her arms. Family was always everything to her.

Our Mum was such a kind, considerate and loving lady; she will be forever in our hearts, and we are eternally grateful for the love and guidance she gave us all.
Mum is surely now in a place of light and joy, finally reunited with her risen loved ones.

I thought I’d close by reading a thank-you card sent to Mum a few years ago from one of her grandchildren which simply encapsulates how we will all remember my beautiful Mum:

“To the wonderful Grannie Eleanor,
I cannot express my appreciation for all the love and support you have given
me and my family. I value you as one of the greatest and most important
people in my life. You have one of the purest spirits and I have taken so much
from your caring and loving nature. You are one of my heroes granny, I love
you so very much.
All my love…”

HYMN
Dear Lord and Father of mankind (Horder/Parry)

PRAYERS
Rev David Ireland

THE LORD'S PRAYER

HYMN
Lord of all hopefulness (Irish tune Slane/Struther)

COMMENDATION

FINAL PRAYERS AND BLESSING

RECESSIONAL MUSIC
Nimrod/Elgar

Thanks to:
The Leatherhead belringers and friends, for their beautiful acknowledgement of Eleanor's full life, on all 10 bells, half muffled for the occasion.
Richard Price, who played on both organs, including the special 18th Century organ recovered from the remains of the fire-damaged 1873 Walkers pipe organ.
The Reverend David Ireland, who lead the service for us, and will lead us for the further commendation at 12.30pm at Randall's Park Crematorium, Randalls Road, Leatherhead, Surrey KT22 0AG
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Commitment at Crematrorium

ENTRANCE MUSIC
Pearl Fishers' Duet - Bizet

READINGS
Remember, Christina Rossetti
Read by Becca Stuttard, grnadaughter of Eleanor

Remember me when I am gone away,
         Gone far away into the silent land;
         When you can no more hold me by the hand,
Nor I half turn to go yet turning stay.
Remember me when no more day by day
         You tell me of our future that you plann'd:
         Only remember me; you understand
It will be late to counsel then or pray.
Yet if you should forget me for a while
         And afterwards remember, do not grieve:
         For if the darkness and corruption leave
         A vestige of the thoughts that once I had,
Better by far you should forget and smile
         Than that you should remember and be sad.

The Ship
by Bishop Brent, read by Alexei Edwards, grandson of Eleanor

What is dying?
I am standing on the seashore, a ship sails in the morning breeze and
starts for the ocean.
She is an object of beauty and I stand watching her till at last she
fades on the horizon and someone at my side says: "She is gone."
Gone!
Where?
Gone from my sight that is all.
She is just as large in the masts, hull and spars as she was when I saw
her, and just as able to bear her load of living freight to its destination.
The diminished size and total loss of sight is in me, not in her, and
just at the moment when someone at my side says, "She is gone" -
there are others who are watching her coming, and other voices take
up a glad shout:
"There she comes!"
... and that is dying.

EXIT MUSIC
Intermezzo from Cavalleria Rusticana - Mascagni




A reception will be held from 1.30pm at theRAC Club, Woodcote Park, Wilmerhatch Lane, Epsom KT18 7EW

In place of flowers, if you would,like to make a donation in memory of Eleanor, her chosed charities are:
The British Red Cross www.donate.redcross.org.uk
The Children's Society www.childrenssociety.org.uk

If you would like to add your own memory of Eleanor please email it to the editor of this page Frank Haslam                               

last updated 200425


Jack Stuttard 1916-2005

from the February 2005 magazine
Jack Stuttard
Just a day after
Sid Brown's death we lost another "old faithful" member of our church - Jack Stuttard. Jack's health had not been good in recent months, but he did not look his 88 years and kept going right up to the end. He had attended a Local History Society Committee meeting a week or so before his death and had just completed editing the annual Proceedings of the Society. He was an excellent editor - he had held this post since 1990 and the current edition of the Proceedings is perhaps the best of all.

Like Sid, he was a real gentleman of the old school - courteous to everyone, and he never complained about his health, or indeed, anything else. Again like Sid, he was a very modest man. He had held an extremely senior position for many years with the Ministry of Defence, but he never talked about it and one would never have guessed this from his conversation.

In 1981 Jack retired from the MoD and soon after this he was invited by St. John's School to become their Librarian and also their Archivist. He published a booklet on A Short History of Leatherhead in 1986 and St. John's School Leatherhead - a Short History, in 1998.

Two of the great loves of Jack's life were mountains (he loved Switzerland) and music. He and Eleanor and their children moved to Leatherhead in 1965 and have both been part of the community ever since. Again, like Sid and Joyce, they were in many ways inseparable. They had many separate interests but did many things together, not least being very faithful churchwatch stewards. He will be greatly missed in many quarters. Linda Heath


Geoffrey Stuttard's tribute to his brother John, given at Jack's funeral on Monday, February 7th, 2005, Leatherhead.

My elder brother John - John Corrie Stuttard - Corrie was our mother's maiden name - had a full, fruitful and interesting life. He was born - one of three brothers - Jim is no longer with us - in Hebden Bridge, Yorkshire, of a Yorkshire father, a Lancashire mother and Scottish grandparents, a valuable mixture for all of us.

Our father was in insurance and so we moved about a lot in Yorkshire, and schools in Dewsbury, Northallerton, and Huddersfield were of mixed educational worth, but luckily, we moved to Hull, and the Boulevard School there - Amy Johnson's school - transformed all our lives, and John went on to the Senior Ferens Scholarship to Hull University. There he gained such a good degree in Geography that he was recommended to move on to research in Cambridge.

We were also lucky, from an early age, to have an uncle, the Reverend Herbert Edwards - Uncle Teds - and his charming wife, Aunt Muriel - Auntie Mu - vicar of Stainforth and Langliffe in the Yorkshire Dales. We stayed with them two or three times a year, and from then on we assumed that anyone in his senses would spend as much time as possible wandering amongst and climbing mountains. This we continued with great pleasure all our lives, with Jim in the Himalayas, and John mainly in Europe, often with his great friend, Donald Chamberlain.

In 1939, John joined me in Cambridge, and at Emmanuel College started and completed his research thesis an the Historical Geography of the Forest of Dean, reinforcing his continuing interest in local history. I remember him, when he was quite young, asking for The Pastern Letters as a Christmas present! And at Cambridge, his close friend was Brian Roberts of the Scott Polar Institute and through him he was drawn into the war effort. From then on, he became a member of the Government's Naval Intelligence Group and of the Joint Intelligence Branch, the JIB, until his retirement.

Whilst there, after the War, he was for a time one of the bright young bachelors who lived in a flat above Whitehall, and whose job it was to take all the overnight phone calls to the Cabinet, and decide whether they merited waking up the Prime Minister or the Foreign Secretary.

After the War, through his membership of the English Speaking Union, he met the love of his life, Eleanor - the start of a long and happy marriage. They lived in London for a time and then moved to Leatherhead with their growing family, where they continued over the years to provide a sure home, still important, though the sons and daughters now have their own lives. On his retirement from the Civil Service, he continued his love of and interest in local history, editing and adding to books on Leatherhead and local villages, and his love of books, by becoming librarian of St. John's School.

He was never happier than when browsing in London bookshops for additions to St.John's library. His love of mountains continued too - particularly of the Italian, Austrian and Swiss Alps. And it was in Switzerland, some years ago, at Pantresina, that he found climbing over ten thousand feet was making him breathless, and his eventual heart trouble had to be dealt with by a by-pass operation which was successful. He still continued over the years to be bright and active to the end and never complained - perhaps it was his Yorkshire background? But some days ago, he had a major heart attack and died on the way to hospital.

He had had a long and valuable life. We shall all miss him greatly. He was a good man.

Goodbye John!


Donald Chamberlain's Address at Jack Stuttard's funeral: Donald was a colleague and old friend from Jack's Intelligence days

JACK STUTTARD 1916 - 2005

I first met Jack when I joined the old Joint Intelligence Bureau London in May 1950. He was a founder member of the JIB and had a distinguished background. He had taken an MSc at Emmanuel College, Cambridge, was a geographer and during the war served in Naval Intelligence Division 5, centred in two teams in Oxford and Cambridge. This Division was responsible for the production of the NID Handbooks, comprising 58 volumes on 31 countries. These were to provide information about countries which naval forces might be called upon to visit in peace or in war and they were military in the broadest sense including details of peoples, religion, history and cultures, coasts, climate, economic and transport geography and so on. They were works of great distinction and Jack's two volumes on the Netherlands East Indies (Indonesia) were commonly accepted as one of the finest of the Handbooks. This tradition of in-depth analysis was to inform the JIB yet the largest programme of regional geographical writing ever attempted in the world never received a mention in the Official History of Intelligence in World War 2. They are collectors' pieces now. There was one on Iraq; its economics may be out of date but it should have been compulsory reading for our senior policy civil servants and ministers.

So this was the man, in his early 30s, who was to be one of the greatest influences on my life. Sir Percy Cradock in his book Know Your Enemy has described the JIB under General Sir Kenneth Strong (Eisenhower's Chief of Intelligence) as a high powered research unit, not loved by the armed services - and I would add the Civil Servants - who disliked the mingling of the three services and uniformed and civilian experts. It was the brainchild of Mountbatten and was in truth a clever elite with high entry criteria. At this time, Jack was doing work for which he was completely suited, in depth research but also editorial. He was a superb and discerning editor and was also a professional indexer; I often think of him when I am struggling with the modern indexes.

In September 1950 I joined Jack and Ken Brooke in the Resident Clerks' Flat in the old Ministry of Defence (the building of Churchill's War Rooms). It was a curious Victorian institution, still going strong, which provided 24 hour cover for certain Ministries at a minimal cost. We did our normal work but then had to cover the Ministry out of working hours. We were given a magnificent flat with a housekeeper, Miss Watkins, tea and a biscuit at 8am, our shoes polished and our beds made. The Head of the Civil Service Sir Edward Bridges had a bedroom there and we saw him frequently.

Jack was the senior resident clerk in this officers mess type life, allocating duties, and he was very kind to this raw young man just out of the RAF. He introduced me to Wagner, to film as an art form, and I had the run of his private library housed in our huge sitting room, reading authors such as Henry James and Charles Morgan for the first time and the New England satirist John Marquand who in turn I was to introduce to my daughter. Three Sleeping Beauties in one week with Jack at Covent Garden, Fonteyn, Moira Shearer, and the beautiful, tragic, Svetlana Beriosova. Innumerable concerts together and the Festival of Britain in 1951. We had complete compatibility of interests and I was lucky in having an older, better educated and erudite man moulding my tastes and opinion. And of course, the social life. Jack threw wonderful parties, pretty girls galore, and I remember his wine cellar because he taught me to appreciate good wines.

One recollection among so many. Miss Watkins cooking Sunday lunch, throwing open the hatch and saying, 'Gentlemen, lunch is ready' very formal, almost always guests, Jack carving the Sunday joint, the junior clerk, myself, decanting the wine. A wonderful two years for me but tinged with tragedy for Jack.

In mid 1952 Jack was offered and accepted on promotion the head of the JIB Middle East, formerly centred on Cairo but latterly located at the Joint HQ at Fayid in the Canal Zone. There was a vacancy at desk level, Jack invited me to join him, and in September1952 I landed at Port Said. It was not an easy life; living in tents or stone quarters, terrible temperatures in July and August, no air conditioning, just fans, office in a Nissen hut, and shot at by Egyptians wanting us out of Egypt - with some justice if I may say so. It was essentially a field intelligence office, quite small comprising about 9 or 10 people including a Registry and of course mixed civilian /military. Both of us with diplomatic cover were able to travel in Egypt but not without risk. Of course, Jack's influence was not always benign. 1953 saw us in Alexandria and Jack got fed up with my energy and persuaded me to smoke a pipe in order to calm down. He was to give his pipe up years before I did, but then, he was very self-disciplined. We returned to London in 1954, both of us got married and both of us had children.

The JIB eventually became the Defence Intelligence Staff in 1963 and although nothing seemed to change initially, over the years the traditions of in-depth intelligence analysis and keeping a certain independence from political pressures were eroded and the talents of officers such as Jack were no longer fully utilized. Shallow, quick, journalistic assessments crept in - Jack and I often derided them - and this reached its nadir with a certain intelligence dossier recently. But Jack had several interesting jobs including one involving a certain amount of foreign travel which he liked and the job was in fact quite important. Before he retired, he was pictured in the Evening Standard wearing his bowler hat, as one of the last in Whitehall to do so. It was with retirement however that the wheel of life turned full circle.

His work as librarian with St. John's School enabled him to indulge one of his favourite pastimes - collecting books, preferably on history. I accompanied him on one foray to Ross-on-Wye and Hay festival and observed his antics with some amusement as he bargained away. He seemed to me to be buying mainly history books and I remember teasing him 'What about the Science sixth, Jack?' His work with the Leatherhead Historical Society however took him back to in-depth research and editorial and secretariat work and when I last saw him on October 19th 2004 he seemed to me to be mentally a very happy man, despite his physical frailty.

Most years we would take a week off to walk and climb together in the Lake District or the Swiss Alps. Jack and his brothers were great lovers of mountains and he encouraged me to climb in the Alps as early as 1951 and supervised the purchase of my first climbing boots from Robert Lawry in London - nailed boots. He took me to Taw House in Eskdale in the Lake District and over the years observed three generations of the Ellwood family. I remember gigantic, beautifully cooked four course dinners with good wines, and talking in the sitting room over coal fires with other climbers. Our last visit to Switzerland was sad - I had a serious foot problem, and Jack could not get above 10,000 ft. His heart by-pass put an end to our walking holidays but Jack and Eleanor would return together to his beloved Switzerland.

Jack was blessed with a happy marriage. He became very dependent on Eleanor and although this is quite understandable in his late years, in fact it went back a long time. Sometimes at Taw House when the weather closed in, I would come down to breakfast to find Jack up before me, very rare. 'Donald, I have decided to return home, the weather is unlikely to get better, and I should be grateful if you would take me to Ravensglass'. Of course I knew what it was all about and so did the young Mrs. Ellwood. She would say that evening 'Mr. Stuttard was missing his wife, you know Mr. Chamberlain, its been five days.'

It has often been observed that grief has a selfish element. Jack had such an influence on my life, entirely kindly, that it is quite impossible for me to imagine its permanent absence. He rarely displayed emotion, and expressed disapproval of any action of mine in studied terms, but I always knew when he disapproved and that he was usually right. He was deeply respected among the old hands of the Defence Intelligence Staff. I attended a reunion of some last Tuesday, and they asked me express their sympathy for Jack's family. The five of us of varying former ranks talked about Jack and then they asked me how I was going to end my remarks about him. Jack had been an outstanding intelligence officer of the old type, he was a man of integrity and honour and a gentleman of the old school. But of course, for me, he was much more.

Eleanor Stuttard eulogy and service 21 March 2025


links
Appreciation of Jack from the February 2005 Newsletter of the Leatherhead & District Local History Society

If you have any memories of John or Eleanor to add please contact Frank Haslam, the editor of these pages.

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